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Elizabeth
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@Anita

I’m not sure that this was a message that was ever communicated to me by my parents. I had good, loving parents. That being said, I did leave home when I was 13 (I went to boarding school) and kind of stopped relying on my parents at this point. I just surrounded myself with whoever was around me and used them as my support system. I guess it is a message I’ve been hearing for a long time…but it’s probably because it’s a message I’ve been telling myself since I became independent,  if that makes any sense.


@Brandy

Thanks for saying all that. I’m trying, I just wish I was better at this. My days are so all over the place (emotionally) it’s exhausting. I’m still trying to find ways to keep myself busy in the evenings, that’s my biggest challenge. Also, I feel guilty if I leave my pup all day and then come home only to leave again to go do something. This balancing act is a real challenge.

I know I’m probably not really ready to date, but I feel like I need the attention. That said, I also don’t want to lead anyone on or let anyone down… I feel like I literally question every decision that I make and constantly am second guessing myself, I don’t like it!

My job is forcing me to be very social lately, which is probably a good thing for me, because otherwise I’d be having as little interaction with other people as possible. I did have an odd encounter today at work where an intern asked me about my relationships status (we were riding to and from an event) and all I said is “my situation is complicated right now and I’ll leave it at that.” No one at work knows my situation because when I interviewed, my husband and I were still together, but now we’re not. It’s definitely an odd situation to be in…