Michelle,

I love the example which you gave of me. It does sound really simple when you put it that way and  you’re absolutely right, those are my actual goals and desires for life. I think you might’ve opened my eyes a little bit and gave me a slightly clearer vision on how to proceed to eventually achieve what I want.

Shelby, I am glad your afternoon/evening went okay. It could’ve gone worse, you’re right. Although I do think that both you and your ex are somehow sitting in the unknown for the past few months not really sure of moving on, and that I think goes for both of you. What Michelle mentioned about the difference between moving on and passing time in the here and now only I think applies. It doesn’t sound to me like he is trying to actively move on either… it just sounds like he’s trying to figure things out (in the here and now only) and trying his best to be a decent guy by not dragging you with him into this confusing and unclear situation.