Dear B:

You made the connection between your ex/ current boyfriend and your father. I will ask you a couple of questions in my effort to understand the connection you made better.

You wrote about your father: “I actually resented him, one of my earliest memories of him was being abusive to my mom, who I adored”-

I am wondering regarding your memory of your father abusing your mother, was that before you were one year old (the time he left your mother)?

I am also  wondering about your relationship with your mother in the last five years, why you lived with his parents and not with your mother, and how is it that she hasn’t been able to help you in the last six years in which you’ve been struggling.

anita