Dear Mark,

Thank you for your thoughts.

I agree, I will be staying at my place.

He has reassured me that he wants to change his behaviour because he values our relationship and does not want to lose me. To be honest, I was more concerned about what lead him to entertain exes than I was on the reasons for him wanting to change. That is a great point.

He has broken all forms of communication with the ex.

I’m most interested in determining your last paragraph. How do I achieve this. I don’t know why I should trust him again. Well, bearing in mind that he chose to do this right beside me, I fear the worst for us being in different time zones. It is not reassuring to me that I have access to his phone because I am not that person. It will not validate that he is trustworthy to me.