Dear Lila:

“when I do communicate it is always in a carefully thought out way”- I suggest you ask him for the information you need in a carefully thought out way, but ask nonetheless. Ask in a casual manner, in a simple, honest way. Make the email short and simple to read and understand, nothing long or complicated.

You have the right to know, you have a right to his information. Without honest information, you cannot make informed choices.

Will it stress him that you ask, as carefully as you will? Maybe. But then, there are many stresses in his day, at work and in his living situation. Asking him for information that you deserve to get, will not be the Big Stress that will break him.

And what about your stress, the stress of not knowing, and waiting… why not take care of your stress level?

anita