Hey both. So out of the rainforest and back by the beach after some interesting travel in the back of a truck!

Shelby, glad to hear your sister’s baby arrived safely and all is well there, that is good news. But yeah, a full-on couple of days for you by sounds of it, not surprised you are tired and reaching out for the familiar and safe old relationship. So I think your therapist is right in one thing – it is impossible to have everything/do all. I mean, just think about it logically, how can one person have enough time to be a brain surgeon, astronaut, adventurer, parent etc etc… literally not enough hours! But I don’t agree you should ever settle for less. That to me is giving up on yourself, accepting the fear of not finding better. What I do absolutely believe is that you do have to say ‘no’ to things in your life which don’t give you what you want/need – it’s the only way to have space for the things that you do want.  It’s scary and it takes trust but each time is slightly easier. Would still be curious to hear what you thought about my last few questions. Often it’s when you are closest to breaking free of old bad habits/patterns that they grip on the hardest.

Kkasxo – how goes it with you? You never mentioned how the trauma weekend went, hope it was ok at least and a glimmer of relief it is past.