Thanks Anita – i guess we are not all wired to change or to even recognise self-development – especially when it is emotional or mental rather than just improving a particular and measurable skill.

i remembered something that you might have an opinion on. My ex – since he was 8 (now actually 39!), has played a professional sport for which he is well regarded. Nothing famous lol but he does received adoration from local ‘fans’ etc. Now this will soon be coming to an end (he is deemed old in his field), this surely must have an impact. I could actually predict this a long time ago.  He isnt being ‘fought over’ by clubs, offered exclusive deals or being touted as the next ‘big thing’. More just a delapidated old-timer. He hangs his hat on his sport and his prowess on the ‘pitch’ so to speak. This must also have some bearing on him seeking extra validation through women.

Oh and did i mention he is being made redundant in a job he has been in for 10 years… the same job… because he cant be ar*ed to put in any effort to move. (But curses anyone who ever makes a success of themselves in his chosen day job field…)  xx

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