Hi again.

First to B:  Thank you for your suggestions, B. I went down this route a few years ago when I was the main carer. My sister neither wants nor admits to needing any help. I have been trying for months to get her to phone the social services for an assessment for my mum as it’s long overdue. The SS. would put into place any extra help that would be beneficial to my mother, and identify her as a ‘vulnerable adult’ but my sister simply won’t call. I’m pretty sure she it’s because doesn’t want any interference. Something to hide.

Anita – yes – me and my sister went on holiday together a couple of years ago. Everything is ok as long as you are always doing what she wants to do. We have always had a very shaky relationship as sisters, and that’s why the loss of my best friend hit me so hard, as I loved her like a sister.

My ‘best friend’ did indeed go and live with the man I was dating. I haven’t spoken to either best friend or the man in question for over 2 and a half years. Suddenly out of the blue, the man texted to say she had left him and he was devastated. I felt so sorry for him. I knew it would happen, as best friend had done the same with her former partner.

So I have a sister and a former best friend who are both, at best – selfish and put their own needs above everyone else’s, at worst, two narcissists. It wasn’t until another of my oldest friends pointed out that they had always thought that my former best friend was a lot like my sister, that the penny finally dropped!

My sister has never been my best friend. She has always been extremely jealous of me, and done her best to outshine me on every little accomplishment. She is the worst kind of bully. A master manipulator. And nothing is ever her fault.

My mother used to be the same, and years ago, both mother and sister would turn on me.  I learned to simply keep out of the way if I could. My grandmother gave me a lot of love.