Dear Nichole:

These mental diagnoses have their uses when done by capable and responsible professionals certified to make these diagnoses, following meeting with the patient repeatedly, asking questions and studying the patient. To come up with these diagnoses otherwise, based on people’s stories, is simply irresponsible.

(No one is born with a personality disorder, not a single person. It is the accumulations of symptoms over a period of years, usually a bit over two decades that “earn” a person a diagnosis).

Better not look at a diagnosis and see if a person fits into it and then figure that everything else you read about the diagnosis is likely to be true to the particular person.

Better look at the BASICS of a person’s behavior, for ex:: is he honest with you or does he lie?/ does he keep his word or break it; does he walk his talk?/ does he treat you respectfully or disrespectfully?/is he aggressive toward you?/does he blame you repeatedly and never looks within himself for mistakes or wrongdoings on his part?

Did you say he is blind, partially blind or completely blind? That is something you did not mention before!

I will be away from the computer for a few hours, then back shortly and gone till tomorrow morning, I hope you rest from this exhausting discussion, we don’t have to continue with the personality disorder topic, not at all!

anita