Dear Mutubu:

You are welcome!

“how do I deal with someone who’s indecisive?..”

Let’s look at your current dilemma: the woman you are interested, at one point “pops the question and wants to make it official”, later she told you: “I’m not your girl… we’re single we’re just talking”, and most recently, “she wants me to come up to Canada to see her”-

I don’t think she is indecisive, I think she is impulsive in the area of dating/ relationships with men. She was into you at one point, then maybe she communicated with another guy, or had a date with one and lost interest in you. Later, it didn’t work out with the guy, she was lonely and got interested in you again. In that case, if you travel to Canada, she may find another guy interesting while you are flying to see her, which will make your visit there quite miserable.

You wrote: “I personally feel like I can’t have those same conversations we had before because trust has been broken”- trust is very important in a relationship, and I don’t think you should try to have a relationship with a person you don’t trust and who has proven to be untrustworthy.

anita