Hi Anita. Thankyou for your reply.

It wasn’t a falling out to begin with. He left for work without saying goodbye (he would usually kiss my head, even if I was asleep). When he got home, I asked him why he didn’t say goodbye, acknowledge me in the morning (I was up & about), he said he didn’t have time. It then turned into a falling out, as he doesn’t like discussing relationship issues. I told him that even when I am in a rush, there is always a few seconds to say goodbye. I wasn’t confrontational & was calm when I spoke to him in the evening. He got very irate, told me I was shouting (I wasn’t) & that I was crazy. He uses the silent treatment to avoid discussing any problems we may be having and has been very emotionally distant from me for some time. After a few days of silent treatment from him. I suggested calmly that we owe it to each other to have a conversation about things. So we sat together for a couple of hours. He suggested that we talk about general stuff, rather than our relationship, to avoid an argument. I chatted about my week, my visit with my nephew, work, my time spent with my brother. He half listened, which is normal for him. I can tell because 10 mins later he questions me about something I have already told him. He often isn’t fully present. But no return conversation about his week & what he has been doing. I have to almost squeeze the information from him. He is always very vague about what he has been doing. I said that I felt the conversation was very one way & I didn’t want to share everything with him, if he is not happy to share with me. This made him very agitated again. Since then 3 more weeks of silent treatment & I have slept in the other room.

I’m sure he did assume that I had gone to visit family & friends for a few days. Although it does ring alarm bells that he didn’t know for sure & didn’t seem at all bothered. I arrived home last night & he looked almost shocked to see me.

I really appreciate your time & look forward to your response Anita.

Best wishes, Lulu.