Dear lisa:

You are welcome. If you really like a man, you will probably want to see him sometime during the week in the comfortable setting  of home, in addition to the weekend “dates, travel, concerts etc.”, having a simple dinner at home, watching a movie.

It takes time to know a person, and being 58 doesn’t change this fact, it takes time. To “blend two adult lives together” will make sense only if you know the man well and he knows you, if the two of you are always respectful of each other, assertive with each other (not passive, or passive-aggressive or aggressive), and if at least at times you feel empathy for each  other.  It is also very important to want the same things from a relationship and being able to communicate honestly and clearly with each other.

Regarding a previous relationship you wrote: “as issues arose, I think I ignored some initial reactions, because I wanted it to work”- for the purpose of a relationship working, better not ignore any significant issue and communicate about it honestly and clearly as soon as possible after an issue arises.

anita