Lilian,

You are welcome.  I find that the “growth” of romantic relationships where we risk, where we practice being vulnerable, where we deal with our own personal baggage, where we learn how to communicate honestly, openly and compassionately.  It’s tough and scary.  I have used a counselor with my partner to help us along on this.  We all have our wounds and family-of-origin beliefs that don’t really serve a healthy relationship.

I believe it is all about trust with each other and willing to be stretched to grow for yourself.  I think if my partner does not want to do the same then that’s a deal breaker.  I divorced because my wife was not willing to do that with me.  I found somebody who was willing to take that risk and step into her discomfort in order to co-create a better relationship.. with herself and with me.

Mark