I don’t know if we have had a truly honest conversation with each other about our expectations and needs in the relationship because both of us are scared of losing each other. I am scared if our wants and needs don’t match that we will lost our connection, something I am terribly afraid of.

You’re welcome!  I quoted that part of your post above because you said something VERY important. You aren’t having these honest conversations because you’re scared of losing each other, but the irony here is that NOT having these conversations will likely lead to you losing each other because your needs aren’t being met. This happened with my ex and I. We were so scared to talk to each other because we were afraid of either disappointing or losing the other one that eventually my ex got frustrated and started feeling like you are now, only he made the decision to leave without talking to me about how to resolve the feelings he was having first. So those conversations are so, so very important to have if you value your relationship and your boyfriend as a partner.

So the good news is, at this point, you have nothing to lose really since you’ve already been considering a breakup… this conversation, though, might possibly prevent you from having to do the thing you’re scared of… you two may be able to find a solution where both of your needs are being met and then you both will naturally start feeling better by default, and if you can’t, find a solution, then you’ll know you’re not a match for each other, so you’ll have an answer to the question you posted here.

Even if you can’t meet in the middle on absolutely everything, if you can both find a workable compromise, that’s still a positive thing.

Good luck! I know these conversations can be daunting, but they are very worth it in the end.