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Thanks for the warm welcome, everyone. I’ve been very up and down, but honestly, mostly down. Part of what’s hard is doubting all the reasons that led us to this point…it’s so hard for me to remember/trust/believe the reasons that I wanted out. I’m pretty sure that that’s a natural part of breakups, and all I can hope is that *eventually* I will remember, and again believe, the reasons that I thought we weren’t right for each other. But right now, I think I have very rose-colored glasses on about the past (again – normal), and it’s hard for me to hold onto the part of me that wanted to break up. (I can share the story at some point but I’m a tiny bit worried about her coming across this forum and recognizing me, to be honest! But basically – for years, I had doubts about whether we were “right” for each other because of a number of things that seemed like incompatibilities to me. And then a series of events sort of brought everything to the surface, including me falling for another person.)
Anyway. Just trying to take it one day at a time, or really, one hour at a time. I have moments where I feel good every day, and I guess that’s better than nothing. Trying to exercise a lot, spend lots of time outdoors, and remind myself that this pain really *will* pass, and that I won’t always feel that way. Also, I guess 2.5 weeks is pretty fresh! It could get worse from here, of course (and I’m scared that it will). But it could also get better.
Glad to be here. Thank you for having me.