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March 17, 2019 at 7:15 am #284937
Kkasxo, thanks so much. Yes, it’s hard to make sense of anything when I’m in the middle of so much grief. Everything reminds me of her, I’m thinking of her constantly, and it’s just…so painful. I’m going to have to move out of our apartment in a couple of weeks and I’m really, really dreading that, but also trying to remind myself: one day at a time, I’ll cross that bridge when I come to it.
I’m still catching up on your story, but sounds like you’re going through a pretty tough, intense and scary process right now too, looking for a place with your ex/current partner. Thinking of you and sending you a little peace, if possible, and lots of strength.March 14, 2019 at 10:53 am #284625
Thanks for the warm welcome, everyone. I’ve been very up and down, but honestly, mostly down. Part of what’s hard is doubting all the reasons that led us to this point…it’s so hard for me to remember/trust/believe the reasons that I wanted out. I’m pretty sure that that’s a natural part of breakups, and all I can hope is that *eventually* I will remember, and again believe, the reasons that I thought we weren’t right for each other. But right now, I think I have very rose-colored glasses on about the past (again – normal), and it’s hard for me to hold onto the part of me that wanted to break up. (I can share the story at some point but I’m a tiny bit worried about her coming across this forum and recognizing me, to be honest! But basically – for years, I had doubts about whether we were “right” for each other because of a number of things that seemed like incompatibilities to me. And then a series of events sort of brought everything to the surface, including me falling for another person.)
Anyway. Just trying to take it one day at a time, or really, one hour at a time. I have moments where I feel good every day, and I guess that’s better than nothing. Trying to exercise a lot, spend lots of time outdoors, and remind myself that this pain really *will* pass, and that I won’t always feel that way. Also, I guess 2.5 weeks is pretty fresh! It could get worse from here, of course (and I’m scared that it will). But it could also get better.
Glad to be here. Thank you for having me.March 13, 2019 at 11:31 am #284437
Just joining this community. My partner and I split up just over two weeks ago. We were together for six years, and lived together. The decision was mutual but more mine than hers – I had been having doubts about our relationship for years, and in the end, I just couldn’t let go of them. I felt enormous relief for a week or so, but now the grief of having lost my partner of six years is really settling in, and I feel overwhelmed by pain so much of the time. Though perhaps our relationship had to end (I’m not sure), there was so much good in it – we really loved each other well, were very good to each other, and had a pretty happy life together in most ways. I know rationally that I won’t feel this pain forever, but it is really, really, really hard to believe it in the moment, when I feel so sad I can hardly breathe.
Anyway, just here for the healing. Looking forward to talking more with all of you.