Dear Joan:

As I understand it, you are asking for “the magic word” that will free you from being stuck in your anxiety filled efforts to, primarily, fix your daughter’s relationship so to restore a “perfect life” that you never had.

I can try to offer you a sentence with a question mark at its end, read it and tell me how it feels before you analyze what I wrote and before the guilt feelings set in:

– how do you feel when you think of your mother no longer living with you and no longer being in your life?

anita