I think that’s accurate Anita.  Either I’ve ended a relationship, or after awhile, my boyfriend will be worn down by my cancelling dates and/or not committing to a date, that he will end things.  It seems early, in the first couple of dates, to tell someone that my parents marriage was abusive, and it made a big impression on me, but I’d like to break this pattern.  This requires, not only willingness on his part, but also patience and understanding.  A lot to expect from someone I’ve just met.  I come across as a nut, yes?