Disrespectful as in mocking me and he said he doesn’t care. The fight started because I saw something on his social media that lead me to believe he was talking to his ex in the beginning of our relationship and lied to me about it. About a year ago he cheated on me and since then I’ve been pretty paranoid. i was rude because I told him that he was becoming the person he said he wasn’t. Ignoring me, yelling at me, manipulating.  I went to his house to confront him about me thinking that he was talking to his ex and it was a calm conversation until I said that I’m worried because whatever battle he’s fighting within himself, he’s projecting onto me and he can’t just sit around and wait for time to make everything clear for him, he has to put in effort to be the person he wants to. And he said I always think I’m perfect and gets super defensive, and he knows he does cause he always said “ I’m trying to defend myself”. When he gets defensive, he gets rude and then turns around and says he’s just being honest when he said I think I’m perfect. From there it escalated, cause the conversation turned into a conversation about him and I found myself trying to comfort him and I got mad because it always ends up like that. I try and talk about my feelings and the tables turn and then once he’s calm, I can’t bring up my concerns cause then I’m dragging it out and he’ll say something like “why can’t we just be happy”.