Dear Veronica:

First, a summary of what you shared: you had a relationship with a man for two years. In the very beginning of the relationship, one day before you and him had a date, he spent some time with an ex girlfriend, in person or online (I don’t know),  “with the intent to have sex”. A month or so later, May 2017,  “he admitted to me that about a week before, his ex called him.. the same ex” and the two of you broke up for the first time. You found out about him being in contact with his ex by looking at Facebook, questioning him (“if she didn’t have your number, then how did she call  you…”).

The relationship was “a rollercoaster” and the most recent breakup followed a fight in which you told him in front of his mother: “you treat me like sh*&”. Angry that you said it in front of his mother, and it being that “in his eyes he’s never treated me that way”, he drove off and told his mother to tell you that it is over.

My input: reads to me that you viewed him and treated him right from the beginning as a suspect, presumed guilty unless he proves himself innocent of all charges. You even use criminal law language: “To give him the benefit of the doubt, he was very sweet… he admitted…he always said ‘I’m trying to defend myself‘.. the same ex that he hung out with, with the intent to have sex”.

So I figure he got very tired of being questioned and confronted (“I went to his house to confront him”), interrogated and accused.

What do you think?

anita