This is what he had to said to me before phone call:

I’m working a lot this week and am tight for money, so that’s a part of staying in Edinburgh as well as spending time with my fella obv.

That’s it just there. I don’t want you to feel like you’re in the position where you are nipping my head/stepping on my toes. Like when youre feeling anxious/nervous and I don’t reply which makes you worry more. That is putting a bit of undue pressure on me. Like when I’m in a total downer/wanting some chill and I don’t reply to you even though you ideally need a mate who replies when you want to talk and have some ongoing chat with. I just don’t feel I can be there for you all the time or offer the support that you’re needing from a friendship right now. And I hate the feeling of letting you down, I don’t feel it’s fair for either of us. Mostly, I don’t feel it’s fair for you. I almost feel like I’m stringing you along saying we’ll meet up, giving you hope and not being able to meet up because I’ve got other things going on. You need a proper mate that can be there for you, to hang out with and meet up with. It’s not right that you sometimes feel like you’re stepping on my toes, because a true proper friendship shouldn’t be like that. And for that I am sorry man, I am. There never seems to be good timing to deliver bad news to you, because there are always a lot of issues outwith your control on your plate affecting your life and I’m not helping. I mean, I don’t want to make you scared when I type a long big message. I don’t want to make you feel like you have a gut wrenching feeling in your stomach, and the fact that’s the feeling I make you have when I type a long message is horrible. That’s what I mean by this isn’t a healthy friendship. It’s certainly not healthy for you when you are scared/anxious waiting for my responses

One thing I do want to say is that I would be keen for us to meet up to chat about this over a dog walk sometime though

ill post the message i want to send after this