Dear anita,

yes, I won’t let K. back into my life again. Today I am feeling unhappy about letting myself get used by these two men. Sometimes I even wonder, if I should have reported the first one! What he did was really not o.K. It was definitely abusive in his case…

In any case, I don’t want to let something like this happen to me ever again. I think I have become clearer already about what I want and that I don’t have to please everyone. And that I should value my own feelings and wishes more. If only I would have learned that sooner. But at least I know better now…

Thank you anita, for helping me in this process of learning and for always being patient with me.  It his helped me and therapy is also helping me, I feel.

Dear Tony,

thank you for your reply.

Yes, you can always work on yourself, even though it is not always easy. You can also work on your relationships, but in some cases, it’s better to walk away!