Dear lindsey:

I think the best thing for you, in addition to moving to your new apartment, is to see a quality psychotherapist. You’ve been experiencing a lot  of emotional hardship for a long, long time, culminating with this fast relationship at work, a fast relationship that brings up strong feelings of shame, hurt and anger for you.

I can see that writing him a letter didn’t help. A confrontation at his home will not help either and may make things worse for you. Talking about this in the safety and comfort of therapy with a capable, empathetic therapist that you will trust is best for you.

If you want to express here,  on your thread, what it is that you wish to express to this co worker, writing that letter to him here, in your next post, please do and I will read it and reply to you further.

anita