Dear Lily:

I am fine, thank you.

“people telling you they love you to only mistreat you later, is very confusing”- yes, it is, until you learn that unfortunately this is the norm, not the exception, in relationships. Parents notoriously tell their children they love them, feed them, clothe them and mistreat them.

You wrote about your father: “I remember the feeling that he disliked me and I disliked him”-  young  are unable to evaluate their parents and form a dislike for them. The dislike occurs later on. It must have hurt the young girl that you were, to be disliked by him.

“Hopefully I will be able to grow and heal more and more”- you are growing and you are healing and I am so glad to witness it here!

Keep doing what works for you, focusing on your goals and being productive. And forgive yourself as I forgive myself.

In about twelve hours from now I will be back for a very short time but will be mostly gone from the computer for the next 36 hours.

anita