Dear Girija:

Make a plan: work for the purpose of saving enough money so to move out of your home-or-origin/ the washing machine, out of the area altogether, so you no longer visit your home-of-origin and move far away, perhaps to another country where you can make much more money than you are making now, a place where you will start making your own decisions.

“I don’t think it is limited to my home.. the whole world feels like a washing machine”- well, once you find a place in the world where you no longer live with your mother (and sister) in the same room, not even in the same house… or country, that will be a start.

You can’t .. find a different kind of a world for you while you sleep in one room with your mother who controls your life. Don’t you think?

anita