Ai,

I agree with Inky.

You have been with this man for 5 years.  It appears that you did not have an open, honest, and close relationship otherwise he would have told you how important his cultural traditions are, how he expected you to obey him and follow him anywhere, or even have taken you to meet his parents during those 5 years together.

You can love him from a distance as a friend but as a long term partner who respects you and thinks of you as a true partner, he has proven that he is not the one.

Right now you are reeling from this turnabout from the man you thought you knew during those 5 years and emotionally distraught.   Kick in your rational mind for that will give you a clearer perspective.  Your ex boyfriend is correct in saying that not only his country is not right for you but being tied to him is not right for you either.

Mark