Dear Ingrid:

You suffered abuse by your sister, and you suffer from anxiety, depression and panic attacks. You also self harmed (I hope you no longer do!)

You told Orange about how your sister, your depression and self harm. You wrote about Orange: “There were many times when she said hurtful things” to you, that she made fun of you, judged you, and “never took (you)serious”. For the last month you and Orange “constantly argue at school” and you feel badly about yourself having her in your life. Yet, you and her take the same classes and all your friends are also her friends.

My advice is that you see a school counselor, and if there is none in your school, then one of your teacher or an administrator who appears friendly and present to him or her your problem with Orange. Maybe a counselor or a teacher or an administrator in your school will be able and willing to help you, maybe he/ she will get you and Orange in the office and have a dialogue going regarding how to proceed.

I don’t know if you see a counselor/therapist outside of school regarding your current family problems (ongoing abuse by your sister?), your anxiety and depression, as well as self harm. I hope you do, and if you dont, maybe the school counselor can refer you to such.

anita