Thanks for the reply Anita. Yes you are probably right, as shocking as it sounds.. I have no reason to deny your theory, it’s probably true. You said it’s difficult to imagine that she has no interest, let me tell you, I was 8 or 10 years old and I was sitting and being bored at my grandma’s , listening to her talking about things, and my explanation was (I remember it clearly) : “it’s probably because I’m a child and they’re adults so no one talks to me ” , and then I was 15 , and I was in high school and then college and still I was sitting there being silent, then I started to look at the clock in the kitchen, counting how many hours of sitting left.. it was very.. .. how to put it.. disturbing..it bothered me, I was impatient. How many times can you sit like this. I remember I once took a book with me so I could read, instead of sitting doing nothing. My mom told me after this “you were reading all the time, you didn’t have any input to conversation” and I told her everything, and she said sorry, etc. She had no idea, BUT she did told me she felt the same way that grandma always talks about herself and other people and never asks us about our lives. Anita, do you think it’s okay if I leave it the way it is? There’s a wedding soon , of my cousin (the better granddaughter) I don’t have any contact with her, barely know her, she lives in another country, we spoke maybe 4 times. I’m thinking of not going to this wedding, I don’t have money to buy a present, a dress, and all this. I think it’s not worth it, not only the money but fixing this family situation and going there because I should. I know grandma will be outraged and unhappy when I don’t go. because what would people say etc. But I don’t want to fix it, I want this “situation” to be the way she wanted it to be : not talking.