Dear marthams:

Your grandmother really is a bad person, hurting her own children and grandchildren, going out of her way to make it happen. It is tough for a child at any age (your mother is her adult-child) to accept that about a parent. The child, minor and then adult,  often tries to please the cruel parent her whole life. The cruel parent’s weapon is her anger.

“grandma is angry with me?” is the title of your thread.

To remove yourself from a cruel, hostile person is the right thing to do.

As you remove yourself from your grandmother, don’t be surprised to see your mother still trying to please her mother (your grandmother), still trying to get on her (forever-temporary) good list.

anita