Hey Shelby, no worries on the mumblings, understand what you mean, I write like I think too. It just read like you thought you’d be worth less if you guys split up, which isn’t true but easy to feel like.

Your ex is wise – that’s pretty much exactly what we’ve been discussing last couple months right!! You know you can’t stay with this guy hoping/expecting he will change, he won’t – and more importantly – shouldn’t have to, he is who he is as much as you are who you are. Dating is just finding out if you are right together as you are, not as you could or ‘should’ be.  What do you think you need him to change about himself? I’ve not yet really understood what you think is wrong with him that you have to choose between settling for or leaving. Apologies if it’s because I’ve missed it earlier but the only thing I’m aware you’ve mentioned is he didn’t want to get married and you did – but since marriage isn’t really any part of whether it’s a good relationship or not I figure there must be other things you think you need to change?  Can you describe exactly what you want from this relationship and where in your mind the gaps are?