Hey Kkasxo – top timing – your post came through just as I pressed submit here!

I love your ex’s/non-ex new name – subtle and evocative…did make me laugh. Though aware it’s not funny at all and you’ve described it perfectly, the opening of your eyes to the reality of him – it’s been coming through louder and louder in your posts this year, which is why I was curious if he was making you happier overall or not. Understand the deep connection from the past but I think it’s a big step you can recognise both the good and the bad – essentially the reality and not just what you wish it was/could be. Huge huge step.  And good job on trying to talk to him about it, does sound like he needs to decide if he wants to grow or not. Absolutely spot on about the what’s the point of him being your life partner if not, I know 200% my partner will be there for me if I really need him, even when I’m not great at accepting help, and he’s not just there for the good times.  Let’s see what he comes back with.  Really good to hear from you as ever.

I did try to pack some sunshine but customs wouldn’t let me bring it through…..sorry! It’s so quiet back here too having got used to the soundtrack of Vietnam – and so expensive! But it’s lovely being back in our home, though odd how much stuff you feel you have after living out of a backpack for the last 8 weeks!