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Hi all,
Just scanning the replies as quickly as I can to catch up, forgive me if I miss some.
Kkasxo,
How are you doing? Sleeping any better? Thanks for the advice on my situation, I really appreciate you giving me advice despite going through so much yourself as it is.
How is the house hunting going? Realistically at this point, do you WANT to live with Mr. A2? Or are you hoping it will go back to way things were if ye live together, where you would be warming his pyjamas for him on the radiator and you’d feel content and happy again? Or are you just doing it now cos you started down this path and feel you have to continue?
Michelle,
I still don’t know what my ex wants, because HE doesn’t know what he wants. He said he wanted us to have our own place but found reasons not to. He said he’s scared at the thought of being a parent, it terrifies him but hasn’t said outright that he doesn’t want them, he even suggested what activities he would do with a child if he had one.
Even now after we starting speaking after the split, I asked him if he’s happier not being in a relationship and he says he doesn’t know what will make him happy, he has no clue which way to go. So he breaks up with me so he doesn’t have to think about it.
I know I want more than what I’m getting now and evidently what I was getting before, but he’s genuinely such a great person, I feel the potential and I feel horrendous at the thoughts of ya not working out. I don’t know why I’m not a woman who says ‘hell no, I’m not sticking around for a ‘maybe’” but I am who I am. I am not that woman, I’m someone who keeps risking her heart.