Shelby & Michelle,

It is an interesting concept, when is enough really enough? How much time is enough time to wait? Where do we draw the line?

Shelby, it’s interesting that you say you thought you had reached your time limit, twice, and yet you keep going. I can relate to this although not with break ups (as we have only had one split) more with the chances or rather things I apparently continue to oversee in my ex partner. This has become more apparent to me in the last few days and I’m not sure if either really not enough has happened for me to be urged to walk away, or if I am just simply deluded and I can’t reapect myself enough to walk away from him.

I can hand on heart tell you that the last few months of ‘trying’ with my ex have been full of trials and tribulations and in the process of it all I have built up a lot of resentment towards him. After all, he is now Mr A2, no longer my A1 that I loved and cherished so dearly. I worry the same may happen to you if you continue this unknown situationship with your ex. Then again, I realise that probably isn’t much of an excuse to walk away either, nothing seems to be (for me or you!).

I don’t know exactly how you feel about this but for me personally, when I try to look at my situation from an outsiders point of view, it makes me sad. I am clearly not aware of any self worth, I’m clearly quite happy to be walked all over with my needs/wants ignored while I tag along adjusting and giving my all to anyone and everyone. It’s quite a sad sight.

I hope you get the rest that you need having been so busy this week!