Hi Mike,

Have I been to weddings! Even my own! Boy, are they FRAUGHT with background drama! Consider yourself lucky that it’s “just” with friends and not with family.

This is what I would do:

1. Tell him that you did NOT withhold information, that you asked both of them to be in the wedding party last year and they both said “YES”! Aside from the breakup, why would that change? Was he assuming that SHE would back out?

2. Broken up friends can’t make us “Choose” between them. New girlfriends can’t make us “Choose” between exes. Tell him you CHOSE both of them at your wedding party. If either one bails, tell him/her (I know this is hard): “Of course, I TOTALLY understand that this must be too much for you, and we’ll miss you and be thinking about you.”

Good Luck! Welcome to the World of Weddings!

Best,

Inky

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