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Michelle
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Hi X,

So, I found your old threads and have read some of them, not all, there is a lot as you say.  Curious – have you ever tried to practice focusing your mind/thoughts? Whilst I appreciate sometimes it’s easiest just to mind-dump everything as it comes so to speak but I think practicing this could be helpful for you in calming your mind, seeing clearer. You clearly have a wide-ranging, well-read mind but it’s not so obvious how you go about sorting through the whole ton of data, information, thoughts, input?

Personally, the best way I have found for this is to write your first ‘mind-dump’ out in Word or something and re-read it back through – and then force yourself to ruthlessly prioritise it into the top three things you want to say.  Like that hot air-balloon game where you have to name what gets thrown out first, it’s a way of helping work through identifying what seems most important, which is always telling by itself.  It would be helpful going forwards for us I think, even if you still post the whole mind dump, to put at the top of each one what you considered the top three summary sentences/points to be.

Have a go at doing so about the other responses you wanted to write re my comments whilst I work through your old posts more.  I’m going to suggest you post them under your old thread and let me know when you have done so and I’ll answer you there, if that works for you.