Dear Josh:

Welcome back!

I will put some information from your March 2017 original post with information in this thread:

Two years ago you wrote about your ex girlfriend’s father, how you “looked up to him”, “picking up some of his hobbies”, how you enjoyed spending time with her family, ” love(d) her and her entire family so much”.

When she broke up with you, she told you that she felt the “spark had burned out, and that she felt more like roommate than a couple”. You wrote: “The absolute killer of our relationship though was our lack of physical affection. There were weeks we’d go without a romantic kiss, and sex slowed down dramatically to the point of stopping. She wanted it, but I had no interest”. You mentioned “it was a result of low testosterone that killed my drive”.

Two years later, your fist date with a new woman, the two of you had a long evening, proceed to the bedroom and you couldn’t maintain your erection. There was no second date.

My thoughts: it seems to me that you enjoyed your five year relationship with your ex girlfriend very much, but from one point on you enjoyed her family more, and you enjoyed her as a sibling. You crave a family life so much, the family you didn’t have growing up, wanting it badly. I think you felt comfortable in that setting, that of a family. No sex, just family, being perhaps a child, looking up to her father, as your father.

As I read your posts in your previous thread I could see you are intelligent, insightful, kind, considerate, honest and I bet the woman you had the date with noticed those things. Maybe it is the sexual thing that turned her off.

I am wondering about the testosterone problem, if you attended to it, if it is something you tried to correct or if you are planning to do so once you are in a relationship?

A woman who is a homebody like you shared that you are, a woman who is interested in what you are interested in, a calm life at home, some going out, extended family, family oriented living would definitely be the right woman for you.

I hope to read your thoughts about .. my thoughts here.

anita