Dear Thomas:

Having read about this friendship in your previous thread, I vote for you to end the friendship and contact with him for this reason: the friendship makes you “feel anxious, nervous & uneasy” and you feel “emotionally drained by this person and can’t really put time into other people”-

– you are so anxious, nervous, uneasy and drained that you don’t have the presence of mind to meaningfully interact with other people. This is not  a good thing. Take care of yourself and eliminate the source of this distress in your life.

The list of positives that you made don’t make it worth it for you. I think this guy has become an obsession  in your mind and life. To recover from this obsession you need a mutual understanding with him that there will be absolutely no contact with him, either for a certain length of time or forevermore.

What do you think?

anita