Hey X,

Apols I wasn’t clear. I think online dating is a very good idea for you to meet men who are seriously interested in dating you, getting to know you. As said, it is a tool, not a solution. So it’s success will depend on you being ready to use it in a way that doesn’t simply see you repeating your old/current patterns.  The only way your life is going to change is by thinking and doing something different.

Don’t let fear of the unknown and potential overwhelming input stop you, you are in control of this, you stop it when you want it to stop. Be brave, courageous – like a book heroine – overcome your fears.  You are actually the author of your own life story.  You hold the pen on what happens, on how the heroine reacts to everything that life throws at her, how she responds, what she does and thinks. Does she sit around and wait for life to passively happen to her, waiting for others to lead the way and take charge of her life so she doesn’t have to? Are there pages full of endlessly reliving past events, blaming others for their faults? Or does she accept what has happened, learn from the experiences and move on, trying something different next time, accepting the lessons taught and wisdom gained, however painful, becoming stronger, wiser.

Life will always throw things at us that we don’t like or want. It is how we choose to respond to them that sets out our story. Think about the story you are writing for yourself whilst you are away.

Have a great trip.