Dear IpkRO9:

“he made a comment about a friend of his whom he used to call his brother until I made him see that he just used my guy to get information about his life to use them as gossip later..”- as I read this I thought that his friend behaved just like your sister. Then I continued to read your post: “He said I am irritated by that good for nothing person… your sister does the same thing”- just what I thought. Your sister gathered information for the purpose of using it against you, looking in your phone, and she gossiped for the purpose of hurting your boyfriend, intentionally aiming at ruining his reputation with anyone who will listen to her.

If you look at the previous page of your thread, on March 11, I wrote to you:”Your sister.. is not honest and open with you, doesn’t seem to care what you think and feel, doesn’t ask you questions as to what you think and feel”- and you answered, “yes, it is correct”.

I wrote to you on the same date, about your sister: “she is dishonest and indirect.. she approves, then disapproves with no rational reasoning. And she goes back on her words… she lies and easily betrays a person’s trust, her friend’s and her sister’s trust..”- and you wrote to me: “Your every word connects with me”.

You are welcome to re-read my every word that connected with you, including the quotes from what you shared that are parts of the words that connect with you (March 11, 2019).

My input today: for as long as you are loyal to your sister, you are also loyal to her values. In other words, for as long as you are loyal to your sister, by definition, you are also dishonest, indirect, going back on your words, lie, betray others, and are otherwise, well, cruel, just like your sister.

anita