When we were in a ldr my boyfriend was the one who came in my city to see me, but there were several times when I went to his city and my father would say things like “Why are you the one who goes there? He’s the boy he has to come to you” and it’s really annoying and makes no sense. 1. because he was the one to come like 99% of the time, and 2. because I didn’t see a problem for me to go there, and I don’t have this old mentality that he has to do everything because he’s the man and I don’t have to do anything because I’m the girl. This is the only example that comes to my mind right now. Or when I would fight with my boyfriend (because I would pick fights or felt unsatisfied on some level) and he would not answer to my calls/texts and completely ignored me and I was crying and panicking my parents hated to see me like that, but my father would say that he doesn’t love me… like he was supposed to accept me picking fights with him and not have any reaction.