Dear coconut:

I believe that what is causing your troubles in your relationship with your live-in boyfriend is your childhood experience with your parents. There is something about your father’s nagging you, not leaving you alone that was very, very difficult for you, and understandably so.

Maybe you want to take some time away from the computer for a while, and when you are calm and ready, post more about the dynamics between your father-and-you, and between your father-and-your-mother.

-Maybe your father’s enjoyed causing you and your mother to yell/ creating war, so to speak, while keeping his own anger hidden in the appearance of peace.

anita