I was always the one who yelled (and also my mother used to yell). I don’t know, he always had his eyes on me and nag me all the time and told me how to do the smallest things and that annoyed me very much and the most frequent sentence I would yell at him was “leave me alone!!!” because I couldn’t do anything without him keeping his eyes on me and tell me how to do it.
I believe that what is causing your troubles in your relationship with your live-in boyfriend is your childhood experience with your parents. There is something about your father’s nagging you, not leaving you alone that was very, very difficult for you, and understandably so.
Maybe you want to take some time away from the computer for a while, and when you are calm and ready, post more about the dynamics between your father-and-you, and between your father-and-your-mother.
-Maybe your father’s enjoyed causing you and your mother to yell/ creating war, so to speak, while keeping his own anger hidden in the appearance of peace.
Well, if (and when) you want to describe here let’s say one incident between your parents when they disagreed, he said/ she said, please do. As well as one incident between your father and you when you disagreed, he said/you said (and add “yelling” when it applies), please do.
I need some perspective on my situation from people who have been in a long term relationship.
A little background (again): We have been in a relationship for 4 years, we broke up for 5 months after 2.5 years, and we moved in together 3 months ago.
I don’t feel any affection/attraction for my boyfriend (he does for me; I care for him very much, I feel like I don’t want anybody else). Everything is fine between us. Am I just bored or I fell out of love with him? I don’t know what to do…breaking up makes no sense for me, I am content about how things are right now, it’s better than ever. But I don’t know… if I don’t feel love and affection…what should I do? Is it normal?