Dear Gregory:

Thank you again for your kind words, I am smiling right now in appreciation of your words.

“what if she come and say I want to be (with) my son? When I had already lose appetite or interest in her?”-

-say NO.

“What do most women need on earth??? Is is a real love from a man who married her???”-

-we are all born loving and needing love, all boys and girls are born loving, heart soft and open, trusting their parents completely.

All of us get somewhat hurt by our parents, a bit, if not a whole lot. When we get hurt a lot, as children, our hearts become hard and closed. Some people’s hearts are still soft-enough, like your heart, Gregory, you are still loving, you still want to please others, you care about being kind to people.

But many people, their hearts have so little softness, too hard and too closed. Every person has moments when you can see softness, but there is too little of it. You may get confused by those moments and think- this person is loving!- but not so, these are only loving moments that you observe.

People with mostly hard and closed hearts, like your estranged wife, what does she “need on earth… real love from a man who married her?”-

-women with hard and closed hearts want such things as money, power, revenge, excitement, entertainment, opportunities to brag to others about what they own, and so forth.

So if your estranged wife comes to you (“what if she come and say I want to be (with) my son?”), it may very well be that she will want to have your son as something she owns, something to show off to others and brag about, and worse, she may want your son so to have power over him, it is easy to have power over a child. And she may want to have power over you, and mistreat you and your son.

A summary of my answers: a woman with a soft-enough,  open heart wants love from a man who will marry her. But a woman with a hard, closed heart wants power-over others, she wants to show off and brag, and too often, she wants to punish and take revenge for what happened to her long ago, when she was a child. (She will not punish her parents.. she will punish her husband and her children).

To the rest of your post: “a woman can’t be shared like a shoe or a food”- I understand and I agree, one woman- one man in a trusting, respectful and loyal, monogamous relationship. Make sure that in the future you know a woman well before you get involved with her, make sure her heart is soft-enough, and that she too believes in the same kind of relationship as you do.

Your son, Chris Agoth Gregory, in Nairobi- Kenya will be going to baby class never year. How exciting for him! His heart is still soft, isn’t it. Protect his heart so it doesn’t get hard and closed. Protect him from his own mother whose heart is hard and closed.

I don’t know anything about the legal proceedings where you live, but IF divorcing her is possible and IF it will protect your son (now and/ or later), do divorce her.

When you become a certified pilot, Chris Agoth Gregory will be thrilled to fly with his father as his first officer,  co-pilot at your right, in the cockpit!

“I want his mother one of the day pointing at her son saying that is my first born son flying Boeing 727..”- if his mother with a hard heart brags about her son flying an airplane, that is just bragging, no love in it. Don’t encourage that to happen.

And again, post anytime you would like and I will reply.

anita