Dear prudence:

There was a plan that you and you travel to visit him September 2018 but he stopped calling and didn’t answer your calls Sept- Dec 31, 2018, “3 moths of silence”.

When he called Dec 31, 2018, you “felt happy and relieved”.

Early 2019 he visited you and had sex with you. Late April this year there was a plan, again, that you and your baby visit him May 1, but again, he “stopped picking his calls, and ignoring (you) on WhatsApp” and later replied that he didn’t get paid and therefore can’t send you the money to visit him.

You wrote that you are 22, a mother of a young son, done with college, unemployed, watch a lot of TV, “feel useless and like an embarrassment.. a failure in life in general” and that “worst things .. always happen to me”.

My input today: this man didn’t want to spend the money for your transportation and visit to his city. But he knows where you live, so next time he happens to be where you live, he may very well call you or text you and suggest to spend time together, have sex.

My questions to you, if I may:

1. Do you think that you will feel, again, “happy and relieved” that he called you,  and have sex with him, again?

2. Your username prudence means to be makes wise choices. What will be the wise choice for you to make when he is in your area and calls you, asking you to get together again, and why would it be the wise choice?

anita