Hi JuliaM,

Honor your feelings that something is “off”.

Also, it sounds like he is very removed but this moving in together is the only thing he’s passionate about. What’s up with that? Is it the money? Is it to eventually mooch off of you? Is it because he is secretly gay and this will “prove” that he’s a regular guy? Is it to ease you into marriage (military people are very traditional in that respect)? Very strange.

Who the heck knows. But off is off. I know you’re in your thirties, but trust me, you still have some good years left to have kids.

Keep your own place!

Inky