Dear noname:

It was only last evening, about 15 hours ago that I thought about you, amazing that you  posted so soon after I was wondering about you, if you ever post again, wondering how close you are to graduating.

Congratulations for graduating and for soon receiving your license certification!

Regarding “I’m seriously considering not talking to my parents at all for good”- I am all for  it, 100%. No doubt in my mind that it is the right thing for you to do.

You will have to endure the guilt though, the feeling you have that by ending contact with them you will be abandoning your sister. But if you correct your thinking and repeat to yourself that really, you are not helping your sister by keeping this contact and you are hurting yourself, it will help with this guilt feeling.

Save yourself. One day, when you are strong and have been strong for a long time, working and thriving, then if your sister will want your help, then maybe you will be able to help her. But now,  you are only hurting yourself.

I mean, how many times do you experience the same thing, doing well, then spending time with your mother/ parents and back to depression before you figure out that it is not working…?

anita