Dear Cali Chica:

What your father said: “what kind of daughter treats he own parents like garbage..”- that sounds just like your mother speaking… and indeed it was, your mother speaking as the poor fellow, your father.. became your mother. I think that in your parents’ home there are now your mother.. and your mother.

Your mother has been so contradictory in her messages I am surprised you are as sane as you are. She was happy you brought a friend over, made her day, and she was unhappy you brought the same friend over, that same day, because she had to accommodate that friend on top of having to accommodate you, while the friend’s mother had it easy. Better go to the friend’s house so to.. inconvenience the friend’s mother. So you do that, but your mother is lonely at home, and she is so happy when you bring a friend over. I thought about this this morning, before I turned on the computer, soon after I woke up, had that image of the bird, agitated,  looking right, looking left, and again, never settled.

How can you be settled when receiving these contradictory messages about how to make your mother happy, what it is that will make her happy.

anita