Dear Dan:

From getting to know you some from your other thread, I would say that the most important thing in the context of a romantic relationship with a woman for you, is that you get to know a woman first as a person, that you get to like who she is and respect her for who she is. Allow for imperfections, of course, but see to it that she is a woman that you can truly like and respect.

In other words, don’t hit on this woman, but see if you can meet her over coffee and the like as a potential friend. Aim at friendship first, get to know her, then see if you are interested in a romantic relationship.

anita