Hi Peggy, thanks for your reply.
Your point of view is also mine and I often tell him.  No one can know what will happen in the future, children may not always or want to help elderly parents.  His son is a very good boy, I don’t know why he shouldn’t take care of his father at least (I don’t mean he should look after him personally, but only follow a nurse or nursing home).  But as you can see, I also get infected by these concerns, which I think serve only to prevent people from serenely living the present.
I really like your idea of ​​representing my husband’s angst in painting, it helps to visualize it  and introduce a little joy, since I recognize that I am quite melodramatic … Like all people (I for one) he  has some  defects but he is really a good person, kind and caring.
For this reason I would paint his angst like a huge, grumpy and somewhat clumsy bear, always ready to protect me in his embrace at the same time suffocating and affectionate.
Thanks to you Penny and the other friends of the forum, you are very kind and you have really helped me.  I am happy to have discovered this community and I hope I can contribute too.