Hey Redkarrr

I would not be surprised if you are a little angry too if you see it as he gave up. Feeling sad is just part of losing something you valued, it takes time to get used to the idea it’s no longer part of your life, of your future.  It can’t be avoided as that’s avoiding reality – the reality is you are feeling sad now – but it will not last forever, feelings change and you learn and grow, gain new perspectives.  That’s what I meant about being gentle on yourself, as in it’s ok to be sad, it’s necessary, don’t worry or expect yourself you to be ok for a while, it’s a bit like grieving, takes time.

People will always make choices we’d rather they didn’t. You can’t change people’s choices and you can’t force them to want to be with you. But you can choose how you get through this, how you respond – and you are already making lots of good choices from what I can see.

Shelby/Kkasxo – hope you guys both enjoying the sun!